My Husband Hated My Daughter, Who I Birthed While in High School, and Refused to Accept Her as His Own but That Did Not Last
When I married my husband, I carried a heavy fear in my heart. I had a daughter from my high school years a chapter of my life I didn’t deny but one that came with pain and lessons. At first, my husband said he understood. He promised acceptance.
But after the marriage settled, his true feelings surfaced, and my daughter became the silent victim of resentment she did not deserve. He treated her differently from day one. He ignored her presence, corrected her harshly, and constantly reminded me that she “was not his responsibility.”
Simple things like school fees, food, or medical needs became arguments. My daughter noticed everything. She became quiet, withdrawn, and afraid to speak. Watching her spirit dim broke me more than the words he threw at me.
I tried talking to him calmly.
I tried reminding him that she was a child and that marriage meant becoming one family. He shut me down every time. He said he tolerated her only because of me. Some days, he suggested I send her away to relatives. At that point, I felt trapped between protecting my child and saving my marriage.
The emotional pressure became too much. My daughter once asked me in a low voice, “Mama, why does daddy hate me?” That night, I cried until morning. I knew I could not raise a child in an environment where she felt unwanted.
I also knew fighting him would only harden his heart further. A woman I trusted noticed my distress and shared her own experience of blended-family rejection. She advised me to seek guidance from Doctor Bokko, someone who had helped her restore peace without breaking her home.
